Couples often come to learn dance privately with me for their wedding. So, we are working on the combination and sometimes things are not flowing. I dance with one and it works perfectly. I dance with the other, again… marvellous! So what’s going on?? TRUST! A lack of trust. They do so well with me because they trust me.
It’s not that these couples don’t have trust in their relationship. However, we often forget that trust needs to be re-affirmed every time we try something new with each other or when we are going to be vulnerable. It’s a very simple acknowledgement: “Ok let’s do this, we need to trust each other–Yes!” Once they agree to trust each other with this new step it’s like magic… they are flawless!
How often do we assume trust is present without cultivating or confirming it in reality?